The Art of Relating Mindfully
- Wonderwell Mountain Refuge
- 253 Philbrick Hill Rd Springfield NH 03284
- Sep 28 - 30, 2018 (3 days)
- Private Room w/En-Suite Bath - $460.00 Private Room w/Hall Bath - $400.00 Shared Room w/En-Suite Bath - $336.00 Shared Room w/Hall Bath - $306.00 Dorm - $278.00 Tenting - $236.00 Commuter - $196.00
Freshening up our Relationship: A Couples Retreat
We often subscribe to the myth that the right relationship will fix everything; that meeting the right person will solve most of our problems. Soon we start to take our relationships for granted and assume that they will maintain themselves. We discover that intimate relationships are not self-renewing. Like gardens, they need to be watered, weeded, fertilized and tended. If this does not happen, appreciation for our partner and our loving connection begin to weaken. The heart grows less sensitive. We erect self-protective walls in defense from hurt and vulnerability. Trapped in painful and repetitive dances we each can feel alone, unappreciated, unsafe, unimportant, suffocated, unloved, inadequate and more. You are not alone. We all find ourselves in these tangles from time to time in our relationships, and they are painful. Even though we may make some efforts to nurture our relationship, an occasional deep cleaning is needed.
This workshop offers a chance to remember, renew and refresh your relationship. Here you will have the opportunity to relax, reflect and re-connect with your partner. We will aim to widen our compassion to include more of our own vulnerabilities and those of our partner, and to deepen our capacity to both offer and receive love. Together we will learn strategies for avoiding these tangles and getting out of them more quickly once they arise.
We will alternate between teaching segments, mindfulness practice and dyadic couples’ exercises. First, the exercises will help you recognize when you have shifted from an open, connected and loving space to a more self-protective stance. Second, the exercises will give you skills to shift internally to a more compassionate space so you can reconnect. The exercises will include kindness and compassion, appreciation, opening a closed heart, letting go of needing to be “right”, making contact and playing. At no time will you be “put on the spot” and asked to share personal information in front of others. Developing more effective communication and listening skills can enhance the quality of our primary relationships as with our therapeutic ones.
Friday 6:30-9 pm: Welcome & overview
Saturday 9-8 pm: Alternating teaching, meditation, and experiential exercises Sunday 9-12pm: Experiential exercises, meditation, closing
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