CONNECTIONS a men's erotic embodiment retreat
New Years Retreat: December 27 - January 1, 2019 SOLD OUT!!
Next Retreat: February 15 - 20, 2019
CONNECTIONS is a heart-centered gathering
in which to experience our ecstatic erotic bodies
free of the shame, judgment, and guilt which we experience as a result of society’s denigration of man to man sex.
Explore and expand your body’s capacity for pleasure by shedding negative beliefs and habitual patterns of erotic behaviour and creating new pathways to erotic pleasure and ecstasy.
CONNECTIONS a somatic-based, experiential celebration of our masculinity and eroticism.
“Somatic” practices give us the opportunity to learn and understand by physically doing and feeling “new” patterns and sensations in our body. The learning happens on a cellular level - this is different from cerebral “text book” learning.
Join us for daily skyclad (naked/clothing optional) yoga, improvisational movement, dance, sound exercises, guided massage and touch experiences, conscious erotic practices, mindful conversation, ecstatic erotic dance, bonfire, beach walk, hiking, quiet contemplation
“Let’s Talk About Sex” - Meal times are a great opportunity for intentional conversations which help us all to process experiences and deepen our time on retreat. Past topics have included:
- Boundaries and consent.
- How our pleasurable and unpleasant experiences are held in our body and how that shapes our current choices.
- Sex and fear in the age of HIV/AIDS.
- Celebrating your sexuality
- Online hookups! What is safe sex in 2018? PREP & PEP!!
- Positive and challenging experiences from our sexual past.
- “Coming out”, Gay Community/Ghetto/Neighbourhoods
- Envision your future, your community
Erotic practices at CONNECTIONS are designed for participants to explore their own erotic bodies in community with others. Although we celebrate man to man sex, this workshop is based on more fully understanding our own body’s capacity to experience pleasure and ecstasy. Participants will experience and exchange intimate contact through intentional touch, massage, and erotic ritual. We will not be engaging in “sex” with each other.
Some programming practices will include nudity.
All male-identified people are welcome to participate at their own comfort level.
Cost includes Dorm Style Accommodations and
healthy home-cooked meals
$1550 Canadian includes 5 nights 4 days programming & room and board
Early Bird rate – $1,400 when paid in full by January 15, 2019
Past participants from previous CONNECTIONS retreats said:
“This is my first experience witnessing the ability of people (especially gay men) to hold space and non-judgmentally support one another. This has been an invaluable experience for me.”
“You guys rock!”
“I arrived with an open mind and am leaving with an open heart.”
“I’m so inspired to live and learn through this new lens.”
“I appreciate the vulnerability of the hosts for demonstrating these (embodiment) skills. I like what I learned and hope to incorporate it into my life.”
“Thank you both for a wonderful retreat, the safe space and mutual respect were wonderful.”
“A great way to end and begin the year.”
“The retreat did a great job of developing gay men’s relationship to their own bodies”
The most valuable part of the retreat was:
“…experiencing learning and pushing boundaries with a tribe of men.”
“…all the positive energy from our 4 days together at the Retreat. I just want to thank each and every one of you for sharing your time and experiences with me. My take away was more than you will ever realize. Thanks Pono, for talking about the process of decompressing. I personally experienced a broad spectrum of emotions in the days following, most of which have been joyous and upbeat. I now have landed in a very good place.”
“Safe space, trusting, supportive.”
“I was pleased with how supportive the environment was.”
“The supportive and non-judgmental environment”
The Ecstatic Table Dance was:
“… the most fun I have had in a long time.”
“Great music! Very high energy …I enjoyed the opportunity to be a little ‘wild’ amidst more structured activities.”
“I loved it. Great way to start the day.”
“Very valuable tool.”
“Excellent session. Learned lots of new techniques. Loved the music.”
“I appreciated playing with myself in new ways.”
The bossy massage was:
“Fun and an excellent lesson in listening to what our bodies want, and our right to request it. A cornerstone of my week at Skyclad.”
“…all the positive energy from our 4 days together at the Retreat. I just want to thank each and every one of you for sharing your time and experiences with me. My take away was more than you will ever realize. Thanks Pono, for talking about the process of decompressing. I personally experienced a broad spectrum on emotions in the days following, most of which have been joyous and upbeat. I now have landed in a very good place.”
- Daily Skyclad (naked) Yoga
- Guided communal erotic experiences
- Build massage skills
- Male bonding
Venue HighlightsConverted barn retreat centre located on 9 acres in Metchosin, 30 minutes from DT Victoria.
A quiet rural escape with easy forest walks on property.
Access to local beaches including a clothing optional beach.
- Free Wifi
- Free Parking
- Yoga Studio
ScheduleSample of Daily Schedule
7 rise and shine!
7:30-9 morning yoga practice
10:30-11:30 BTSM - exploring the foundations of embodiment
through breath, touch, sound, and movement
11:30 -1 mindful massage practice
4:30-7 mindful massage/erotic ritual
7-8:30 dinner then free time
**Scheduling for each retreat is tailored
to meet the needs of the group.
- Includes Meat
- Gluten Free
- Dairy Free
Menu/CuisineMeals are home cooked using fresh local ingredients wherever possible..
AccommodationsDorm style accommodation with shared bathroom.
Beds are queen and twin.
Towels and linens are provided.
DirectionsParticipants can fly into Victoria BC (YYJ)
BC Ferries from Vancouver/Lower Mainland Tsawwassen-Swartz Bay - https://www.bcferries.com/schedules/mainland/tssw-current.php
Victoria Clipper from Seattle - https://www.clippervacations.com
Rides can be pre arranged from YYJ or ferry terminals through firstname.lastname@example.org