Couples Alive I
About This Event
"It was a pivotal moment in our relationship - we went to The Haven as the last straw before separation. We are now so much more connected and very, very hopeful about a happier future together. Such an amazing experience."
-J., Couples Alive
Couples Alive is our renowned 4-day program series for couples. If you’re wanting more out of your primary relationship and are prepared to go beyond the familiar to find it, Couples Alive is for you!
The Couples Alive series is our core offering for people in a primary relationship. Much of what makes Come Alive (our core program for individuals) so unique and transformative underpins these programs, but with a distinctly couples focus. With support and guidance from highly skilled leaders, you will learn and practice The Haven's proprietary models for communicating and relating with your partner and learn from the diversity of experience around you. All couples meet together during the day and into the evenings, with breaks for relaxation, connection, or adventure in between. In addition to group activities, experiential learning, and discussion, the program leaders offer coaching and feedback to each couple when possible. Couples Alive I: Foundation is an invaluable stand-alone program as well as essential basis for continued learning in the series.
Couples Alive program highlights:
4 focused days together improving, revitalizing, and expanding your relationship
A chance to get away and visit Gabriola, one of BC's most accessible gulf islands
In-depth exploration and application of our tried-and-tested Communication Model from a distinctly couples perspective
Many years of continued success with hundreds of diverse couples
A truly unique approach to relationships developed - and lived - by our founders, Dr. Ben Wong and Dr. Jock McKeen
A variety of breathing and body-awareness experiences that you can take home to continue nurturing your connection and growth
Discovery of your boundaries and development of skills to express wishes, wants and needs
Opportunities for self-care and/or quality time together with our oceanfront hot tub, seasonal pool, onsite bodyworkers, gym, meditation room, forest trails, pool table, games, and more…
The magic of a diverse group of couples. The opportunity to learn from and relate to others in this setting is both rich and unique
Something different from your traditional couples counseling sessions – couples often report accelerated outcomes compared to individual sessions (though we believe there’s a place for both)
Coaching and feedback from experienced and professional leadership who are highly trained both at The Haven and in their various professions
A program series that offers opportunities to continue to learn and grow together…
“We are modeling a healthier relationship for our children. What a legacy!”
- Lori Appleton, Couples Alive I: Foundation
We welcome all people in a primary relationship, whether the individuals identify as male, female, or non-binary
Participants will be invited, but not required, to share what's going on for them and their relationship in the larger group. As with all Haven programs, how you participate is your choice
Couples Alive I: Foundation is the basis for this series and must be taken first
Couples Alive II: Edge and Couples Alive III: Day-to-Day are the next programs in the series, building on the learning and experiences of Couples Alive I: Foundation
Discounts of $250 per person are available when you take more than one Couples Alive program within the year. For example, Couples Alive I in June, followed by Couples Alive II in August of the same year
Venue HighlightsWith rooms by quiet coastline waters and rustic cabins tucked away among the trees, you will feel far from the hustle and bustle of daily life.
Our property and facilities are designed to support our program participants and facilitate the delivery of our educational programs. Although we may not be able to offer all of the luxuries that you may associate with a resort hotel, we do offer the basics and a wonderful natural environment where you can enjoy quiet comfort.
AccommodationsThunderbird dormitory is our most economical option. Each dorm pod accommodates up to 6 people, and each pod has its own washroom. Bunks are single over single, with extra-long mattresses. Dorm pods are separated by gender. The Thunderbird dormitory is only available for participants registered in a program at The Haven. From July to mid-August, the dorms are reserved for our Youth Programs.
Basic rooms are simply furnished, comfortable and economical. They have two singles or one double bed, ensuite, no TV. Basic rooms are designed to be shared by two or three people, with beds in the same room and a shared bathroom. A Basic room may also be booked as a private room.
Forest View rooms are nestled in attractive forested areas of The Haven property. Larger than our Basic rooms, Forest View rooms are designed to be shared by two or three people, with beds in the same room, a TV and private bathroom. A Forest View room may also be booked as a private room.
Ocean View rooms offer spacious, well-equipped and comfortable accommodation looking out over the beach and waters of Taylor Bay. There is a TV in each room, a full kitchen or kitchenette, and private bathroom. Most Ocean view rooms have a deck. Although Ocean View rooms are usually booked as private accommodations, you may be able to share an Ocean View room if you and another program participant both request to be each other's roommate.
Many people find that having a roommate enhances The Haven experience. For some, it's the start of a long friendship.
If you choose Basic or Forest View shared accommodations and wish to stay with a particular person, please provide that person's name when you complete your on-line registration. Please ask your preferred roommate to do the same. Ocean View rooms may only be shared if both guests request each other by name as roommates when booking.
If you choose the Dormitory, or if you choose Basic or Forest View shared accommodations and would like us to find a roommate for you, we assign rooms as men only, women only, or gender neutral.
We make every effort to meet the needs of all our guests, but cannot guarantee specific rooms.
- Free Wifi
- Free Parking
- Hot Tub
- Fitness Center
Menu/CuisineOur goal is to support you and your fellow program participants with delicious, nutritious meals - healthy, nutrient-packed options for your pleasure and well-being. We strive to feature whole, naturally-energizing foods; avoid the use of refined sugars and other highly-processed ingredients whenever possible; and, in line with both health and environmental recommendations, provide healthier cuts and portions, and reduce the amount of animal protein overall.
We serve three buffet-style meals a day in our ocean view dining room. Mealtimes: breakfast 8 - 9 AM; lunch 12 - 1 PM; and dinner 6 - 7 PM.
DirectionsThe Haven is on beautiful Gabriola Island, one of the Southern Gulf Islands of British Columbia. Gabriola Island is 20 minutes via BC Ferries from Nanaimo or 20 minutes by float plane from Vancouver.
100% deposit refund for cancellation 30+ days before event.
50% deposit refund for cancellation 15-29 days before event.
0% deposit refund for cancellation 0-14 days before event.
The remaining balance (total price minus deposit) is due upon arrival.
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Fv fv October 02, 2019
Experiential, universal, revelational about relational and self knowledge. Skilled experienced facilitators. Both times I’ve gone it has left me with deep connections in a short time and I continue to stay I. Touch with those co-participants. Food is hearty, delicious, and plentiful. Grounds are peaceful. I look forward to my next course and my next reunion with newfound friends.
Daisy Orser August 20, 2019
Our 15 year old son just completed Teens Alive (1-3) for the second time, and loved it. The environment is so nurturing and transformative - I really can't say enough about how grateful I am to have this program as a support during these years when parenting can be TOUGH. Our son is navigating high school with confidence, and making mature and thoughtful decisions - we definitely see him process his experiences in a new way and love what we are seeing. His communication with us is more open and productive, and we look forward to him navigating the rest of his teen years with his hands on the reigns. He is looking forward to next year's program and has plans to become an intern in the future as well.
Julian Young May 04, 2019
The Haven is beautifully set on the waterfront on Gabriola Island. I wasn't sure what to expect at this workshop. I was hoping I would find more confidence in using my voice as I have been confident in speaking in public but deathly afraid of singing in public! What I found was a very safe space to explore making all kinds of sound from humming and babble to overtone chanting and yes...singing. Leah was an excellent and gentle guide and the acoustics of our meeting space were amazing. I would recommend The Haven for anyone wanting to get away from their regular routine and explore their inner world. I will go back for more!
Peter Joyes January 06, 2019
A wonderful opportunity to meet like minded people and to participate in goal setting activities for The |haven and for myself.
Louise Amuir August 28, 2018
Great Journey to the very centre of myself. I love all the Haven programs and this one was amazing, too.
Olivia Stille August 15, 2018
I hugely benefited from learning new communications models at the Haven. I feel received and empowered around myself and my emotions and can now communicate them effectively. You don't have to be a yogi or spiritual to come to the Haven. You just have to be a person ready to connect to their authentic self. I loved the scientific, evidence based, psych and counselling type approach of the retreat. The instructors and assistants leading our program were so knowledgeable and helpful. They were all fully present and gave amazing guidance. It was also amazing to do this challenging personal work in a group setting where everyone was themselves and ok being vulnerable. Every single person made authentic, meaningful connections during this retreat, including myself. Having opportunity to work in a larger group and smaller group setting was nice. Plus the grounds at the Haven are beautiful and it was so nice to be next to the ocean.