Come Alive

  • The Haven The Haven
  • 240 Davis Rd Gabriola Island, BC V0R 1X1 Canada
  • Oct 9 - 14, 2019 (6 days)
  • Dorm bed (upper bunk) - Participant - CAD $2,000.00 Dorm bed (lower bunk) - Participant - CAD $2,000.00 Basic Room - Shared - Participant - CAD $2,108.75 Basic Room - Private - Participant - CAD $2,341.25 Forest View - Shared - Participant - CAD $2,20

About This Event

Looking to shake things up?

Ready to try something different?

Experience Come Alive!

Come Alive is for you if you want to:

Continue the climb, experience your potential.

Feel more aliveness and energy.

Move, dance, feel the freedom.

Strengthen your well-being.

Rediscover joy in your life.

Enjoy the beauty of Gabriola Island.

You’ll come away with new friends, more clarity and you’ll have some fun along the way. Here’s what participants have to say about their experience of Come Alive.

In Come Alive, you will learn and practice the Haven models of communication, relationship and self-responsibility, through a range of opportunities for personal learning. The whole group meets during the day, with smaller groups in the evenings. In addition to group activities and discussions, each participant is offered a time for individual experience in large or small group sessions, including breath and body work, gestalt, psychodrama and other forms.

Come Alive is part of the core curriculum of The Haven. It was created some 40 years ago by The Haven’s founders, Bennet Wong and Jock McKeen. You can read a History of Come Alive by Ben and Jock on The Haven’s Shen blog. Come Alive is led by members of The Haven’s core faculty. Gifted leaders, educators and group facilitators, they have all trained at The Haven and have many years’ experience leading Come Alive and other programs.

Come Alive can impact your professional as well as your personal life. The tools we offer can assist in conflict resolution, team building and leadership. If you would like your employer or professional body to support you taking Come Alive, you may find this description for employers and professional bodies (PDF) useful.

Daily schedule

Arrival day: check-in to your accommodation after 4pm. Dinner 6-7pm, welcome orientation 7pm, first session 7:30-9:30pm.

Middle days: breakfast 8-9am; session 9:15am-Noon; lunch 12-1pm; free time 1-3pm for bodywork, beach walk or nap; session 3-6pm; dinner 6-7pm; session 7:30-9:30pm.

Departure day: pack up prior to enjoying breakfast 8-9am; final session 9:15am-Noon; lunch 12-1pm. Check-out time is Noon

Related resources

Ideas in Action – a summary of the models and ideas presented in Come Alive.

Being: A Manual for Life – book by Bennet Wong and Jock McKeen

Joining: The Relationship Garden – book by Bennet Wong and Jock McKeen

I was skeptical as to what to expect but from the first meeting, I was so glad I had made the decision to attend. The results were life changing. I now have a sense of peace that I've never experienced through a greater understanding of myself and my relationships. I feel free, wow! - M.J.


Venue Highlights

With rooms by quiet coastline waters and rustic cabins tucked away among the trees, you will feel far from the hustle and bustle of daily life.

Our property and facilities are designed to support our program participants and facilitate the delivery of our educational programs. Although we may not be able to offer all of the luxuries that you may associate with a resort hotel, we do offer the basics and a wonderful natural environment where you can enjoy quiet comfort.


Thunderbird dormitory is our most economical option. Each dorm pod accommodates up to 6 people, and each pod has its own washroom. Bunks are single over single, with extra-long mattresses. Dorm pods are separated by gender. The Thunderbird dormitory is only available for participants registered in a program at The Haven. From July to mid-August, the dorms are reserved for our Youth Programs. Read more about the Thunderbird dorms (PDF).

Basic rooms are simply furnished, comfortable and economical. They have two singles or one double bed, ensuite, no TV. Basic rooms are designed to be shared by two or three people, with beds in the same room and a shared bathroom. A Basic room may also be booked as a private room.

Forest View rooms are nestled in attractive forested areas of The Haven property. Larger than our Basic rooms, Forest View rooms are designed to be shared by two or three people, with beds in the same room, a TV and private bathroom. A Forest View room may also be booked as a private room.

Ocean View rooms offer spacious, well-equipped and comfortable accommodation looking out over the beach and waters of Taylor Bay. There is a TV in each room, a full kitchen or kitchenette, and private bathroom. Most Ocean view rooms have a deck. Although Ocean View rooms are usually booked as private accommodations, you may be able to share an Ocean View room if you and another program participant both request to be each other's roommate.

Many people find that having a roommate enhances The Haven experience. For some, it's the start of a long friendship.

If you choose Basic or Forest View shared accommodations and wish to stay with a particular person, please provide that person's name when you complete your on-line registration or contact a registrar at (contact info blocked) or (contact info blocked) x1. Please ask your preferred roommate to do the same. Ocean View rooms may only be shared if both guests request each other by name as roommates when booking.

If you choose the Dormitory, or if you choose Basic or Forest View shared accommodations and would like us to find a roommate for you, we assign rooms as men only, women only, or gender neutral. If you would like assistance in choosing shared accommodations that meet your needs contact us at (contact info blocked) or (contact info blocked) x1.

We make every effort to meet the needs of all our guests, but cannot guarantee specific rooms.


  • Free Wifi
  • Pool
  • Free Parking
  • Hot Tub
  • Coffee/Tea
  • Restaurant
  • Fitness Center


Our goal is to support you and your fellow program participants with delicious, nutritious meals - healthy, nutrient-packed options for your pleasure and well-being. We strive to feature whole, naturally-energizing foods; avoid the use of refined sugars and other highly-processed ingredients whenever possible; and, in line with both health and environmental recommendations, provide healthier cuts and portions, and reduce the amount of animal protein overall.

We serve three buffet-style meals a day in our ocean view dining room. Mealtimes: breakfast 8 - 9 AM; lunch 12 - 1 PM; and dinner 6 - 7 PM.


The Haven is on beautiful Gabriola Island, one of the Southern Gulf Islands of British Columbia. Gabriola Island is 20 minutes via BC Ferries from Nanaimo or 20 minutes by float plane from Vancouver. See getting here.


Thank you!

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