I am the lead Tantra Teacher for Tantra4GayMen and wanted to share with you a bit about myself. I started my spiritual journey when I was 18. My mother, a clairvoyant, medium and spiritual healer introduced me to the concept of ‘Universal Energy’ by saying “can you feel this” when she was channeling energy for the first time.
I was fascinated by this idea of energy and ‘magic’. As a child I used to dream and believe in magical things maybe as a method of escape from some other horrible things. The inner child part of me still believes in this magic which is often represented when Christmas films come onto the television about Father Christmas and the little boy inside me believes without question the magical bits.
Since that time when I was 18, I have spent 25 years in what I would describe as my ‘spiritual journey’. I spent over 15 years training and developing my gifts as a clairvoyant, medium and spiritual healer. I have had the privilege in that time of working with many people presenting a whole range of topics and issues. I trained with the spiritualist church in development groups and also many years in closed development groups. During this time I led spiritual development groups honing those delicate skills of intuition, psychic awareness and universal connection of myself and others. During this time I also became a full member of the NFSH (National Federation of Spiritual Healers known as the Healing Trust) and had developed my own private practice regularly seeing clients for ‘psychic readings’ and for spiritual healing.
Interestingly as soon as I reached a plateau of experience and skills there was a deep feeling inside me that I needed to move on. It is very interesting for me how the universe has seemed to guide my path and at times it has taken me great amounts of trust and surrender to follow what feels right inside me and to listen to my universal path. The universe opened the next chapter for me with a radio ad my partner at the time heard, about becoming a voluntary counsellor. I joined the ‘Men As Survivors Helpline’ as a voluntary counsellor listening and supporting the telling of men’s stories related often to childhood abuse, trauma and rape. Given the depth of the content, even though I had received some initial counselling training, I still felt unskilled. It was of paramount importance to me that I could hear these men’s stories without doing more harm through clumsy listening. Even though this was never a possibility, I think I felt a sense of responsibility to be the ‘best I could be’. I think in all of my therapeutic work I have this strong responsibility to be skilled, informed, educated and most of all empathic. In 2003 I commenced my training and qualification as a counsellor at the University of Bristol and worked alongside in HMP Bristol, seeing inmates with issues involving sexual, physical and mental trauma. At this time I also worked for another agency where I saw members of the public concerning the same issues.
As I continued to work with these clients, I had this nagging question in the back of my mind about how far can talking therapies (i.e. counselling) go to really heal issues of sexual trauma. I believe that counselling is an excellent ‘starter’ that helps people to explore the trauma from all perspectives, to be able to get in touch with the emotions of that experience. However, for me, there was still something about trauma lingering in the body. If someone has experienced trauma of any kind, I believe that it is not only remembered in the mind and emotions but also within the physical body itself. I wondered for a long time where were the places that the body could be healed as well as the mind and the emotions too.
In 2006 I was at a unique part of my life. Having done an excellent job of living with somebody with alcohol issues, spending 5 years realising there was a problem, the next 5 years trying to fix the problem, and finally discovering miserably that there was nothing that I could do. I decided to leave and create a new life for myself, that it was time to stop living these scripts and patterns. Between homes I had a unique 3 month period in my life where I opened myself to experience all the things I hadn’t in the last 10 years. I saw an advert for a Tantra course in Brighton and so I booked up to go along.
This weekend led onto my Tantra training and I completed over 50 intensive training days in Europe. How do I begin to tell you how Tantra changed my life? How it enriched the quality of life I have! Interestingly it felt like the different parts of a jigsaw puzzle came together. With my spiritual practice background, therapeutic background, and now Tantric experience, it all came together. At the same time I began work as a family’s counsellor in an alcohol rehabilitation centre. This role gave me so much in terms of understanding more deeply the issues and underlying reasons connected with addiction, as well as the experience of holding group spaces.
The spiritual, counselling and tantric training I have received enables me to offer a unique, embracing, and loving approach to Tantra.
One morning I awoke in Jan-08 and said “Okay, I am going to run a tantra workshop”. I felt such a calling and a sense of cosmic connection to this path. I felt it in every cell of my body, every part of my soul and every part of my head. I have long believed that what defines me as a gay man is not what I always see in the gay scene. I wondered where there were places in the UK for gay and bi men to meet in places of love and in places of intimacy. I couldn’t see many. I felt very sad about this and I just could not believe that this didn’t exist. Surely there must be places where men can connect with each other in their spirituality, their sexuality, connecting all parts of themselves in Tantra. Welcome to my vision, Tantra4GayMen.
I believe that gay and bi men in the UK need places where we can connect in love and intimacy without judgements or fears. My own journey with Tantra has shown me such ecstatic states, where I feel in love with everything me around me. I can recount states of seeing the world in a different perspective and it is this magic that is Tantra, and that I feel so passionate to share.
Therefore my goal and vision is to find as many ways as possible to create places and spaces where men can connect in love and be intimate with each other, without any judgements and without any fear. I believe in creating these spaces through Tantric practice.
To date over 10,000+ men have experienced my work. We have over 11, 500 hits on our website per month. I have been very privileged to work alongside and offer Tantra with the most beautiful of men. I have felt very humbled by the trust and love that has been created and the healing that has taken place. All of this is through the practice of sex combined with spirituality that is Tantra.
My heart is full to bursting when I see groups of men in their ‘natural’ state of love. I think I have the best job in the world, connecting men in love.
Read more about me at http://www.jasontantra.co.uk