Anger, Boundaries and Safety
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Few emotions are more feared than anger, largely because anger is so often confused with violence. A central theme of this program is that anger and violence are different. It is sadly true, of course, that anger is frequently expressed violently – physically, verbally and emotionally. However, this is the unsafe, unboundaried expression of anger, used to harm and control. The good news is that anger is a natural feeling that exists in all of us, and when expressed in a safe and boundaried manner – non-violently – it can be passionate, life enhancing, and good for relationships.
This program offers participants opportunities to both express and witness the safe and boundaried expression of anger. This is helpful for people who have previously expressed their anger violently and no longer want to do this. It is also crucial for people who say they never get angry or, perhaps because of early experiences of violence, avoid any hint of anger today. For both these groups of people, emotional, physical and relationship dysfunction may have resulted. This program will open up exciting new possibilities for you, whatever experiences of anger and/or violence you have had until now.
Initially developed by the late Joann Peterson, the program follows a progression. To begin with, participants explore their beliefs about anger; next, there is discussion of the origins of anger and its varied spectrum of expression; and then participants are invited to gradually begin exploring their personal energetic patterns and trying out a range of individual and relational tools for anger expression.
This program will benefit you if:
You’re always trying to avoid confrontations and/or disagreements
You’ve been told you’re an angry person
You are holding on to anger and resentment connected with past events
You feel repressed, depressed, or emotionally numb
You want to get angry but are scared of what might happen
You experience stiffness, headaches, stomach discomfort or other physical ailments that may be associated with unexpressed or violently expressed anger
You can also read about a personal experience at Anger, Boundaries and Safety in the Shen Blog.
“It was a phenomenal experience on a magical land at The Haven. Greg Gurel’s program, Anger Boundaries and Safety, has changed my life and many aspects. I couldn’t be more grateful”
Participant Sep 2022 ED
Investment:
Our Earlybird tuition price of $720 is available up to one month prior to the program start. Full tuition is $780. Full payment is due one month before the program start date regardless of tuition pricing.
We are offering private and shared room options.
You can find our cancellation policy here
Schedule:
Your program begins with dinner at 6pm and your first session at 7:30pm
Daily schedule:
Breakfast 8:00 - 9:00am
Morning session 9:15am to noon
Lunch noon to 1:00pm
Afternoon session 3:00 - 6:00pm
Dinner 6:00 - 7:00pm
Evening session 7:30 - 9:30pm
Afternoon and evening sessions can vary. Your program finishes with lunch on the last day
Transportation:
If you are travelling to Gabriola as a foot passenger on the Gabriola Ferry a shuttle to The Haven can be requested. Information on this option will be included in your pre-arrival email.
Admission requirements: The student must have the desire and ability to learn. Must demonstrate a capacity for responsible self care, responsible self organization and sound mental health. The student must understand and speak English.
This program does not require approval by the registrar of the Private Training Institutions Branch (PTIB) of the Ministry of Advanced Education, Skills and Training. As such, the registrar did not review this program. What does this mean? Click here to learn more.
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Accommodation
Thunderbird dormitory is our most economical option. Each dorm pod accommodates up to 6 people, and each pod has its own washroom. Bunks are single over single, with extra-long mattresses. Dorm pods are separated by gender. The Thunderbird dormitory is only available for participants registered in a program at The Haven. From July to mid-August, the dorms are reserved for our Youth Programs. Basic rooms are simply furnished, comfortable and economical. They have two singles or one double bed, ensuite, no TV. Basic rooms are designed to be shared by two or three people, with beds in the same room and a shared bathroom. A Basic room may also be booked as a private room. Forest View rooms are nestled in attractive forested areas of The Haven property. Larger than our Basic rooms, Forest View rooms are designed to be shared by two or three people, with beds in the same room, a TV and private bathroom. A Forest View room may also be booked as a private room. Ocean View rooms offer spacious, well-equipped and comfortable accommodation looking out over the beach and waters of Taylor Bay. There is a TV in each room, a full kitchen or kitchenette, and private bathroom. Most Ocean view rooms have a deck. Although Ocean View rooms are usually booked as private accommodations, you may be able to share an Ocean View room if you and another program participant both request to be each other's roommate. Many people find that having a roommate enhances The Haven experience. For some, it's the start of a long friendship. If you choose Basic or Forest View shared accommodations and wish to stay with a particular person, please provide that person's name when you complete your on-line registration. Please ask your preferred roommate to do the same. Ocean View rooms may only be shared if both guests request each other by name as roommates when booking. If you choose the Dormitory, or if you choose Basic or Forest View shared accommodations and would like us to find a roommate for you, we assign rooms as men only, women only, or gender neutral. We make every effort to meet the needs of all our guests, but cannot guarantee specific rooms.
Dorm bed (upper) - Participant
Dorm bed (lower) - Participant
Basic Room - Shared - Participant
Basic Room - Private - Participant
Forestview - Shared - Participant
Forestview - Private - Participant
Oceanview Room - Private - Participant
Oceanview Suite - Private - Participant
Staying off-premise - Participant
Venue & Amenities
Our property and facilities are designed to support our program participants and facilitate the delivery of our educational programs. Although we may not be able to offer all of the luxuries that you may associate with a resort hotel, we do offer the basics and a wonderful natural environment where you can enjoy quiet comfort.