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Going to Pieces Without Falling Apart: The Best of Buddhism & Psychotherapy

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375 Panterkill Road PO Box 70 Phoenicia, NY 12464 United States
Date
Aug 22 - 24, 2025

About this Retreat

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For many years, much of Western psychology has promised fulfillment through the building up and strengthening of the ego. We are taught that the ideal is a strong, individuated and confident self, constructed and reinforced over a lifetime. But Buddhist psychology has always counseled a different approach. While the ego has its place, happiness is not seen as coming from any kind of acquisitiveness, be it material or psychological, happiness is understood as coming from letting go. In Western psychology, this understanding, which sits at the center of Buddhist thought and practice, has been articulated most clearly by the British child analyst Donald Winnicott when he wrote of the need for what he called ‘unintegration,’ differentiating it from both ego integration and complete disintegration. Unintegration is the ability to go to pieces without falling apart, as can happen in meditation, in play, in imagination, in love and sex, or even, at times, in therapy. In Tibetan Buddhism, this insight is codified in the nicknames given for the four stages of Highest Yoga Tantra: Looking, Smiling, Embracing and Orgasm, because the closest we can come in ordinary life to the happiness of the Buddha comes in our love relations.

This weekend’s workshop will encourage the relaxation of the ever-vigilant mind in order to experience the freedom that comes from relinquishing control. We will draw on the best of psychotherapy and Buddhism: the teachings of Winnicott and the great 14 th century Tibetan lama Tsongkhapa, as filtered through, and interpreted by, Mark Epstein and Robert Thurman. Weaving meditation, discussion, personal reflection, and, ideally, inspiration, we will invite participants to experience how this neglected capacity has the potential to reinvigorate our minds.

 

Please note that 13 CE hours are being offered for this retreat for psychologists:

Information on Continuing Education Credit for Health Professionals

CE credits for psychologists are provided by the Spiritual Competency Academy (SCA) which is co-sponsoring this program. The Spiritual Competency Academy is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Spiritual Competency Academy maintains responsibility for this program and its content.
The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE credits for LCSW, LPCC, LEP, and LMFT license renewal for programs offered by sponsors of CE who are approved by the American Psychological Association.
LCSW, LPCC, LEP and LMFTs, and other professionals from outside of California need to check with their state licensing board as to whether or not they accept credits from programs offered by approved sponsors of CE by the American Psychological Association.
SCA is approved by the California Board of Registered Nursing (BRN Provider CEP16887) for licensed nurses in California. RNs must retain their certificate of attendance for 4 years after the course concludes. Nurses outside of California must confirm acceptance with their licensing boards.
For questions about your certificate or the content, logistics, or other support issues regarding this course, please contact Liz Leacock at liz@menla.org.

For questions about whether APA CE is valid for you, contact your licensing board directly.

For general questions about APA CE, contact SCA at info@spiritualcompetencyacademy.com.



Schedule

Friday, August 22

3 - 8 pm Arrival & Check-in
6 - 7 pm Dinner
7:30 pm Welcome and Opening Class

Saturday, August 23

7 - 8 am Tibetan Nejang Yoga
8 - 9 am Breakfast
9:30 - 12 pm Morning Class
12:30 - 1:30 pm Lunch
1:30 - 4 pm Free Time for Spa Treatments, Relaxation, etc.
2 - 3:30 pm Qi Gong Class
4 - 6 pm Afternoon Class
6 - 7 pm Dinner
7:30 pm Evening Class

Sunday, August 24

7 - 11 am Check-out of Rooms
7 - 8 am Tibetan Nejang Yoga (CC Main Hall) or Qi Gong (Devi Room)
8 - 9 am Breakfast
9:30 - 12 pm Closing Class
12:30 - 1:30 pm Lunch & Departure

*Please note that the schedule is subject to change at any time. Read More

Getting Here

Location icon Menla, 375 Panterkill Road PO Box 70 Phoenicia, NY 12464 United States

Accommodation

Deluxe King

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Deluxe King Room with King Bed and Private Bathroom Free Phone and Hi-Speed Wifi Internet Access Available Air Conditioning This Space is not ADA compliant. Deluxe King Rooms are Available only in Kathmandu House * Please note that rates include meals and accommodations Read More

Deluxe Queen

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Deluxe Queen Room with Queen Bed and Private Bathroom Free Phone and Hi-Speed Wifi Internet Access Available Air Conditioning All Rooms in Lhasa are Handicap-Accessible, Including Four Rooms with Wheelchair Accessible Showers. Deluxe Queen Rooms are Available in Lhasa Inn and Kathmandu House * Please note that rates include meals and accommodations Read More

Standard Single - Shared Bath

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Menla Private Queen Room with Queen Bed and Shared Bathroom Public Phone and Hi-Speed Wifi Internet Access Available This lodging type is not ADA Compliant Private Queen Rooms with Shared Bathroom are Available in Thimpu House, Panther Cottage and Potala House * Please note that rates include meals and accommodations Read More

Standard Double Full - Shared bath (Shared Room)

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Deluxe Double Room with Two Full Beds and Shared Bathroom Free Phone and Hi-Speed Wifi Internet Access Available Air Conditioning This lodging type is not ADA Compliant. Please note that due to the stairs we recommend that guests with mobility issues book other accommodations. Deluxe Double Rooms with Shared Bathrooms are Located in Thimphu * Please note rates include meals and accommodations. This booking is for one bed in a double shared room: We May Assign You a Roommate if You Do Not Register with One. Read More

Standard Double Twin - Shared bath (Shared Room)

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Deluxe Double Room with Two Twin Beds and Shared Bathroom Free Phone and Hi-Speed Wifi Internet Access Available Air Conditioning This lodging type is not ADA Compliant. Please note that due to the stairs we recommend that guests with mobility issues book other accommodations. Deluxe Double Rooms with Shared Bathrooms are Located in Thimphu * Please note rates include meals and accommodations. This booking is for one bed in a double shared room: We May Assign You a Roommate if You Do Not Register with One. Read More

Economy Premium Single - Shared Bath

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Standard Premium Single Room with a Queen or Full Bed and Shared Bathroom Up to 10 guests share two large bathrooms. Each bathroom has two shower stalls and two toilets. A phone is not available but high-speed WiFi is available in the room Phone Access Available in Upper Level Of Conference Center. All calls are free of charge This Lodging Type is not ADA Compliant. * Please note rates include meals and accommodations. Read More

Economy Single - Shared Bath

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Standard Single Room with a Twin Bed and Shared Bathroom Bathroom is Shared with One to Six Other Guests on Your Floor. A phone is not available but high-speed WiFi is available in the room Phone Access Available in Nearby Conference Center and also Lhasa in Business Center. All calls are free of charge. This Lodging Type is not ADA Compliant. * Please note rates include meals and accommodations. Read More

Economy Double - Shared Bath (Shared Room)

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Standard Double with Twin Beds and Shared Bathroom The bathroom is Shared with other rooms on the same floor. High-speed Wi-Fi is available in the room. Phone Access Available in Nearby Conference Center and also Lhasa in Business Center. All calls are free of charge. This Lodging Type is not ADA Compliant. * Please note that rates include meals and accommodations * Please note: this is an open door policy room, meaning there are no keys to lock the door (we have lockers you can use at Lhasa if needed) * This booking is for one bed in a double shared room: We May Assign You Roommates if You Do Not Register with others Read More

Economy Quad - Shared Bath (Shared Room)

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Standard Quad Room with Quad Twin Beds and Shared Bathroom Accommodations Fee Includes All Meals. High speed Wi-Fi is available in the room. Phone Access Available in Nearby Conference Center and also Lhasa in Business Center. All calls are free of charge. This Lodging Type is not ADA Compliant. * Please note that rates include meals and accommodations * Please note: this is an open door policy room, meaning there are no keys to lock the door (we have lockers you can use at Lhasa if needed) * This booking is for one bed in a quad shared room: We May Assign You Roommates if You Do Not Register with others. Read More

Camping

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Camping Campers Have Access to Bathrooms with Showers in Lower Level of Conference Center. Menla Has Six Wooden Camping Platforms by the Pantherkill Stream (First Come First Serve). If All Platforms are Full or You Prefer Not to Use One, There is Also Camping Space in a Small Field by the Stream. Accommodations Fee Includes All Meals. Phone and High Speed Wi-Fi Available in Upstairs of the Conference Center and also Lhasa in Business Center. All calls are free of charge. This Lodging Type is not ADA Compliant. * Please note that rates include meals and accommodations Read More

Commuter

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Commuters Menla Encourages Members of the Community to Participate in Our Wonderful Programs! Includes Meals, Public Phone, Public Computer, and Wi-Fi Internet Available in Lhasa Inn. Accommodations Fee Includes All Meals. Read More

Customer Reviews

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Weekend retreat stay
The property is on a beautiful, peaceful location.
Nature is all around and sometimes a little too close but you are literally surrounded by woods.

The food was really good and I liked the buffet style and fruit basket.

The gift shop although small had a nice selection of items and I purchased a few fun items.

Since the dining area was on the opposite side of the site from the convention center, a lot of students drove back and forth on the property. I chose the walking paths to get around.  


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I had a fascinating and enlightening experience during an “Energy squared Reiki,” class at Menlo this past week. The grounds, rooms, facilities amenities and spa at Menla were all beautiful, clean, and peaceful. The food was delicious and nourishing. I can say only good things about both Menla and the program I attended, and would wholeheartedly recommend both. Read More

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